Can you recall your last conversation?
Can you confirm you connected?
Can you recall if it converted?
When having a conversation is it tough to compare,
comprehend and compartmentalize the struggles of the people around you
while you're continually thinking about the best way to control the topic?
It's hard to pay attention when your brain is running away with all the ideas.
Thinking of what needs to be done, what could be done, and what you want to get done.
Let us not forget for each chat, to take a moment, listen and even try to think about the connection before you speak.
The Case of the Converting Conversations Conundrum
A conversation is not best with pre-thought or pre-prepared answers , in fact that is not a conversation at all - seems more like a musician jam session when all the musicians who want to play do - in fact they play so well that the night becomes a “who can solo better” moment to stand out that night.
It reminds me of was the conversation with the two girls at the hostel in Venice on my trip to LA. Both are extremely talented and for good reason. In fact, through conversations, I realized it would be nice to work together. So my brain started thinking of all the ways that could happen.
Seems, however, that my conversation with them was truly realizing for the cause that it was me who needed to connect the two. It wasn't about my ideas or making the money.
it was about the connection between the two people who I listened to and responded with a confirmation of their answers to remember what they said and then realized it was the best way to connect them.
The best situation for the conversation and that contact will convert. Or it was the contact that made it worth the process of doing those 5 steps to connect contacts!
But music, just like conversations, aren't meant to be that way, one person shining or one person being heard, it's an engagement that needs to be cultivated collectively.
How can we be there active for others?
Especially when we don't know what's going on in their world or even care to know because we are too concerned with what we have going on in our heads to even help.
Most of the time we want to:
- find a solution to a problem
- fix it ourselves
- know that we have accomplished a job well done
However, that isn't always the best way to deal with issues and it isn't the best way to help others deal with their issues.
Process be for or you proceed. Digest before you decide.
5 Steps + Be an Interactive Listener
So often we talk too much.
Decide and stop thinking of the next thing to say.
2. Respond with Confirmation
After hearing one or two sentences of ideas respond with the clarity of conversation.
3. Stop Talking
Wait for 3 seconds before and after you and them speak.
Also, when you end a sentence, wait.
A new thought added needs mental time to digest.
4. Let the Conversation Convert
Learn the person we are talking to and if we like how they speak, think and even laugh about.
5. Keep in Touch (if desired) -
What is the best way to connect or make the contact continue?
Know your audience to collaborate best.
It's knowledge and that power can be used for multiple outcomes.
Outcomes that may never happen if you are only thinking about you throughout the conversation.
That is how we should all look at conversations with an open ear and mind and be active in listening as well as responding.
When you are able to do this then it will be easy to see how conversations can convert into contacts.