Creating habits that will create a better you moving forward
That is a passion that we should aspire toward.
Through building your Passion Statement, this is how I learned how to engage with others.
Especially, during those stressful, scary even terrifying moments, when you don’t know what to say, you can eliminate fear just by:
Focusing on connecting rather than thinking
Building a better relationship with people
Providing confidence by being prepared
Not shy away and knowing what to say
I was able to mentally, not just physically, be there and make a connection, in that show or In that: speech, interview, moment, conversation, a handshake, a smile.
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In My Personal Experience
Here Is A Story, snippet really to tie into
the experiment and connect to me;
I used the POP Presentation process for both of my TED Talks and Clockenflap, Hong Kong largest music festival, with my indie band The Anello.
It was at the beginning of the set, on this massive stage, with the mic in my hand and realizing I can engage with our excited audience and just enjoy the moment.
While rocking out I looked up to enjoy the sunset and to be present in that moment looking over the magnificent Hong Kong harbour, scanning down across the festival, and then suddenly I noticed more people watching me in the background. I thought, let's engage with them too, get them involved, make eye contact, and when I looked back at the audience standing in front me and, it had more than doubled in size and everyone was having a great time!
So there I was….. still performing…..with the mic in my hand….. singing a song ( on key hopefully) but back in the moment, rocking out on stage, with all these awesome people. I’ll never know if anyone knew I had that moment. If they did, then I’m happy for that connection.
Each moment in time can be magnified
once you’ve learned to live in it.
That moment, when you communicate that all we are really truly ever looking for.
Oh….but what about…
Fear is described as a distressing emotion
aroused by impending danger, evil, pain
and whether the threat is real or imagined.
Being afraid is real but it exists only in the mind.
The fear is thinking about what’s going to happen next, of what does not yet exist. If you’re fear is about non-existing then your fear is 100% imaginary and imagination is a wonderful ability to have to use as an asset.
If you’re suffering non- existence we call that insanity.
The US National Library of Medicine and National Institutes of Health was doing a study about enhanced fear extinction in major depressive disorder patients the brain is enhanced synaptic plasticity in the amygdala successful PROVIDE extinction learning, the basis of exposure therapy.
Scientist Mark Barad of UCLA experiment he and his team combined a noise with an electric shock to the metal floor of the rat's' cage. At that point, their amygdalae paired the sound with the shock, and the sound created a fear response. The researchers then began the process of fear-extinction training.
After hearing the sound very often without the shock,
overtime fear habits minimised,
and eventually the rats stopped fearing the noise.
Neuroplasticity is the brains’ responds to changes in internal and external environments. It's incredibly flexibility for forming and eliminating connections, basis of learning and memory, i.e., how we store new information and retrieve older information."Fact extinction has its own special mechanisms, different than other forms of learning," Barad says.
This study is on the forefront of a cultural revolution to improve the treatment of human anxiety disorders.
Living in the reality of fear is a tough place to live and it can almost get to a place where mentally it's not worth living this physical life. Once we confront to change in our life we can then focus on what needs to be done to make that change happen in our present.
I work with so many clients that say to me,
If you are struggling to become a
fearless passion seeker
than these may be your problems.
“Yes, I know that Jeff, but it doesn’t matter, I won’t push myself to do it”
Each time I reply kindly, “Hey it’s ok, just make a choice A or B?”
A: Make a Change OR B: ...................?
Preparation and practice on social communication skills are the best cure for fear. It’s the cure to most public anxiety issues, to be honest, preparation for these social moments is something we all could have started preparing for a long, long time ago. It takes years to become an overnight success.
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Many of my clients, had to discover their passion, understand it mentally and do it physically and if we failed at anything along the way so what…..if we succeed you get all the victory for achieving it because the trick is that if you fail, you fail in practice with non judgemental eyes. You have only you to do that to yourself.
We are most often our harshest critics and with this process if you look bad, make a mistake, sound weird or awkward, it’s ok !! Keep doing it - rinse - wash - repeat - and just do it again! Then do it again and again and then you will be a professional performer, presenter and social strategist very soon, or at least sooner than you think.
However, many people don't take action because life seems to get in the way or it’s too tough right now with all the responsibilities or I’m just too scared to fail or possibly succeed. Are we are really so much afraid of what others are going to say or if they will judged you? No, way. Let’s live passion today!
Now, before we go any further, I am just sharing my stories because I am still living today, by the grace of God, with an even bigger passion than just, living my dream of being a “Rock Star”. What about you? What do you like to do?
Complete the below worksheet provided + then move on.
Schedule 2-20 minutes this week to do your favorite passion.
Schedule 2-20 minutes this week to help someone else.
Schedule 2-20 minutes this week to connect with someone.